Hi, Y'all!

For a day in your courts is better
    than a thousand elsewhere.
I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God    than dwell in the tents of wickedness.
Psalm 84:10


I got to be a "greeter" at my church on Easter.  I think that's the absolute greatest job ever.  I mean, think about it - I am told it is my duty to smile and wave, to hug folks, to meet new ones and help them find their place, to chat it up with friends. For real!!  I was only "assigned" to one session but I had so much fun I just kept doing it through the next two services.  It was fabulous.  Even got a new Tshirt for the job.  Maybe somebody thinks this is a "little" thing, but, not me.  I think it's the 2nd  most important job at church. Just after nursery workers.  Loving on folks, making them feel welcome, being glad that they came. It's the best.




As I was grinning my way through the day, I thought about this verse and wondered if maybe, just maybe, I'll get this assignment in glory.  I would really really really love to stand at that gate made of one gigantic pearl and hug everybody as they come in.  Don't you think that would be fun? 

To all the Mommies

If you are a Mom - of three weeks or three decades - you have to see the new movie "Mom's Night Out".  I am not a big movie goer but this one is an absolute must.


Grab a couple of girlfriends - or just go by yourself!!  You will split your sides laughing and bawl your eyes out crying.  It will deliver comedy, encouragement, confidence, and a renewed sense of purpose. 


GO SEE THIS MOVIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When God's plans are different than ours - Guest post

Today's guest post is from a treasured friend of mine, a woman whom I saw walk through years of infertility.  Years filled with hope and disappointment, years of pain and promise, years where she could have turned bitter but she didn't.  This woman graciously agreed to share her story for God's glory.  I wish you could sit across the table from her and share a cup of coffee.  She is so dear to me, and to many others.  She's my hero.  Here's her story......

Several weeks ago, my sweet friend asked me to write a blog about my struggle with infertility.  Honestly, this has been challenging for me and it’s probably not for reasons you may think.  I am happy to share my story with others when Jesus leads me to share.  My struggle is that I simply can’t remember all the details.  God has truly erased so much of the details from my memory.  Perhaps it’s the exact thing that happens with women who forget the pains associated with childbirth.  Here’s what I do feel led to share and my prayer is that my story will reach the hearts of those who are currently struggling with infertility. 

When I think back to my “infertility years,” I vaguely remember the countless medical exams, procedures, blood work, shots, ultrasounds, surgeries, etc.  At the time, I thought I’d never forget a single detail but in God’s goodness, He lessens those memories more and more every year.  Sometimes I think of it as a “graduation present” from Him.  He certainly allows seasons of trials in our lives and I believe He rewards us once we are where He wants usJ  What will always be part of me is the loss my husband and I went through.  We miscarried many, many times.  Some babies were farther along than others.  Some had heartbeats and I’d get so excited, but could tell from the doctor’s face that the heartbeat wasn’t fast enough or strong enough.  Sure enough, I’d miscarry a few days later.   I believe God allows those memories to stay with me as a gift….through the strength of Jesus, I am not only able to empathize and sympathize with ladies in similar situations, but I can truly relate to all their emotions as they go through their journey.  

God changed me though my infertility years.  I learned to be patient and content.  I learned that He makes the plans, not me.  I learned to seek Him, not medical experts.  I learned that He loves to surprise us when we least expect it.  I learned that He forgives and keeps after us even when we don’t deserve his mercy or grace.  Blogs are intended to be short so I won’t give examples for all of those, but I sure have a list of examples if Suzanne ever wants me to write on one of thoseJ  At the time, I was young in my walk with the Lord and you couldn’t have convinced me that God meant my infertility years for good, but He did.  He used every second to mold me into a more Christ-like person. I also believe He used every tear, every heartache, and every detail to prepare my heart for how he would grow my family. 

God grew our family through adoption twice and through a gestational carrier.  There was a time when we thought we may not have children and now we have three.   He blessed us with more than we ever thought possible.   I know some of you reading this are thinking, “That’s easy for you to say because it all worked out!” Please know this, it didn’t work out….not how WE planned it.  God had something bigger, greater than we ever could have imagined.  Our family worked out because God’s planned prevailed!  Glory to His name!  Praise Him for loving us so much that he didn’t allow our plans to work.  We are so thankful that God, in His perfect timing, put up roadblocks when needed so that we could not veer from His perfect plans for our lives. 

Lastly, I leave you with this.  I will never understand the “whys” but what I did learn along the way is that it’s not ok for me to ever question our Heavenly Father.   Some things will not be revealed to us this side of heaven.   As believers and daughters of the King, we must accept that and not dwell on it.  We must accept it knowing that our Heavenly Father only does what is good for us.  As hard as it is and as sad as loss can make our hearts, we need to stay strong and find peace knowing that we will meet and get to know our unborn children in Glory.  There are days when I can hardly wait! 

Please join me

^{Please join me in praying for those kidnapped young girls in Nigeria.  Please pray.  Fervently.  We serve a mighty God and I know with all my heart that He does not want them to remain enslaved.  Please pray until they are returned.}

Waging the war....successfully

I promised a follow up to the "war is a good sign" post.  Here goes.


Indeed, the presence of a struggle between flesh and spirit means that the Spirit is alive in you but the point is not to abide in the struggle....the point is to win.

You may be saying "yes!  I want to win!  But I've tried and tried and tried and ______ is still a problem in my life.  I still lose my temper, I still battle obesity/pornography/alcohol, I still am jealous of others, I still......... whatever....I keep losing."
The struggle - between my flesh ("self") and the Spirit.
   When my flesh is in control, it convinces me that I am owed certain things (like comfort, security, significance, pleasure) and when those things are not delivered as I expect, products like worry and anger and jealousy and impurity and strife are produced.  John Piper calls these "works of the flesh" - " emotional attempts to settle accounts because we didn't get what we thought we deserved".  My flesh is awfully convinced that I merit far more than is actually true, and often, more than I am getting.


The Spirit, on the other hand, produces life.  Galatians 5:22,23 describes the results of a life dominated by the Spirit instead of the flesh: " love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness,  gentleness, self-control"


Duh, I choose "Spirit".  How bout you?


I want to, I really do.  And I'll bet you do, too.


How can we?

I don't have "three keys to successfully dying to yourself". Even if I did, our flesh would probably refuse to read them!  Our flesh or adamic nature or "self" is quite stubbornly intent on running the show.
But I do have some good news.


First, the reality. 
For the desires of the flesh are against the Spirit, and the desires of the Spirit are against the flesh, for these are opposed to each other, to keep you from doing the things you want to do (Galatians 5:17)
 and 
 So I find it to be a law that when I want to do right, evil lies close at hand.  For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being,  but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members.  Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?  Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself serve the law of God with my mind, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin.
(Romans 7:22-25)


Next, the good news for the Christ-follower:
Our flesh has been rendered powerless. 
We know that our old self was crucified with him in order that the body of sin might be brought to nothing, so that we would no longer be enslaved to sin (Romans 6:6)


But wait, why does my flesh continue to cause me problems if it's been crucified???


Our flesh has indeed been dealt a mortal wound.  Piper describes it as  "dragon that resides in the cave of our soul" and " It is a mortal wound. It will die. That is certain. But it has not yet bled to death, and it may yet revive with violent convulsions and do much harm. So you must treat it as dead and seal the cave as a tomb. The Lord of darkness may cause earthquakes in your soul to shake the stones loose, but you build them up again. And have this confidence: with my sword and my hand on yours this dragon's doom is sure, he is finished, and your new life is secure."


So the dragon called flesh can bellow loudly and order us around....but we don't have to comply. 


Know that, once we are in Christ, we never have to sin again.  Anytime we "fall" to anger or impurity or jealousy or any other product of the flesh, it's because we chose to.


Seriously.  We chose that sin.
Over peace and kindness and purity and joy.


Last, the tip for how to make the right choice.  Which results in the desired product.
Quite simple, actually.

 For the mind set on the flesh is death, but the mind set on the Spirit is life and peace (Romans 8:6)


The way to live a life that is characterized by love (for God and others) instead of a life that cherishes self...walking by the Spirit instead of according to the flesh....is a result of


Our mindset.


When we set our mind on the truth and value of the Spirit, the result is life....love...peace...joy.


But if our mind is instead focused on pleasing and satisfying and rewarding our self, the result is death.


Choosing to set our mind on the Spirit is what Scripture calls "dying to self". 


What does this look like when we are in a struggle with our teenager or our toddler, when there is a clash between the will of our spouse and our own, when it feels like a nap or the entire bag of Oreos is what the only thing that will make us feel better?


We choose.
 We can give in to the demands of the flesh by agreeing with it that we deserve whatever our flesh is suggesting.
Or we can direct our thoughts to what God says is true.  That He supplies all that we need in Christ Jesus.  That He only gives good and perfect gifts to His children.  That it is  more blessed to give than to receive.  That we can do all things through Christ.


Simple, yes. 
Harder to do, yes.
But the more we exercise that muscle to choose the things of the Spirit, the less we listen to the dying demands of our flesh, the more we get to enjoy the fruit that the Spirit produces.