Wardrobe Malfunction

About a decade ago, the halftime show of The Super Bowl featured a couple of celebrities whose song and dance routine garnered much attention, some of which was quite negative.  Their controversial act included a brief reveal that many of the viewing public found distasteful.  In the backlash, the exposure was excused as "wardrobe malfunction" and opened up great debate on indecency all over the world.


Whether or not that reveal was indeed a malfunction is certainly debatable but I wonder if, spiritually speaking, we Christians display frequent "wardrobe malfunctions" of our own. 


Galatians 4:27 says For all of you who were baptized into Christ have clothed yourselves with Christ.


But sometimes our lives don't look like we are wearing Jesus, do they?   In the past couple of weeks, I have been engaged in conversations with other believers and myself where bad behavior (such as irritability, anger, immorality, disrespect, impatience, unkindness, and irresponsibility) have been blamed on hormones, bad moods, poor parenting,  difficult circumstances, and, my personal favorite, "stress".


Sisters, this ought not be so!


We are clothed with Christ...therefore, those around us oughta see Him when they look at our lives.  If they don't see Him, this is indeed a wardrobe malfunction of the worst kind.


We are instructed (commanded!) in Ephesians 4:22-24 to lay aside the old self which is being corrupted in accordance with the  lusts of deceit and to put on the new self which in the likeness of God has been created in righteousness and holiness of the truth.
The clothing of the old self is explained in that same passage as things like sensuality, impurity, greediness, lying, uncontrolled anger, stealing, unforgiveness, unwholesome words, bitterness, wrath, clamor, slander and all malice. 
Quite candidly, we should not be attired in these behaviors!  We don't need to pray about it, work through it, or hope we grow out of it - we need to put aside these clothes! Wearing these things is wardrobe malfunction for a Christian.  It's like wearing the opposing team's jersey - we cause ourselves to be identified as belonging to the other side.


Followers of Christ have different clothes to wear because we belong to Him.  Our wardrobe is beautifully described in Colossians 3:12-14  :   Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, 13 bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive. 14 And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony


No need to wonder what to wear for the day - put on the Lord Jesus.  He makes every body look the absolute best!























Sometimes you just need to talk about it

You know that feeling when you just need to talk to somebody, to unburden yourself, to share your heart?  Intuitively you know that it would help for someone to listen, to empathize, and perhaps provide some insight, some counsel, some help.


So you do.


You "cowgirl up" and summon the courage to talk about what's bothering you, your hurts, and your confusion.  You work up the nerve to "do this community thing" and you lay your cards on the table. For somebody to listen, somebody to care.


It really does take courage to do that.  At least it does for me.  I figure everybody has their own troubles and I am hesitant to add mine to theirs.


So sometimes I do.  And sometimes you do.



And sometimes what happens is worse than the burden we are hoping to ease.


The "listener" checks her phone while we are talking.
Or worse, she responds to a text.


Or she somehow gets distracted in the midst of our tale and consequently asks questions that reveal her lack of attentiveness.


Maybe she listens to us but fails to hear with empathy and launches right in to preaching at us.


Ouch.


Those "Bible bullets" are painful when they implode on an already bleeding target.


It feels like she just doesn't care, like you don't matter.  Perhaps that's not actually the case, but it sure feels like it.




What are we to do in a case like this?  Suck it up and move on?  Toughen up our hide and know that this world is full of pain?  Stuff it all back inside and vow never to attempt this again?


I think there are some people who will listen.  With the ears of their hearts.  And I think God will lead us to them. 


But first I think He wants us to know that it is good to be


Casting all your care on Him,


Confident that He will always listen, always empathize, always give the best response....


 because He cares about you  (I Peter 5:7)


He really cares.  He loves you and me with an Everlasting Love.  An unconditional Love.  A personal, individual, deepest of all Loves.


Tell Him about your troubles.  He cares...........and He can do something about your hurt.

Is it a chore or a privilege ?

Whatever you do, work heartily as for the Lord and not for menColossians 3:23
What a great verse .What a great reminder.What will obedience to that look like in my life?Let's look at it this way...
If Jesus were to invite Himself to my home and if He asked me to cook and clean and wash His tunic, how would I most likely respond ?
1. Enthusiastically - without complaining 2. Gladly - cheerfully 3. Grateful for the opportunity - not drudgery or a burden nor an inconvenience 4. With excellence - the best I have to offer 5. Motivated to please Him - my joy and satisfaction would come from seeing Him pleased
Hmmmm I think that's how He wants me to serve His people.... Just as if I were serving Him .
Something to think about.

Apology

Yesterday I wrote a post to encourage my fellow homeschooling Moms.  Some folks that are new on this often lonely/discouraging/self-doubt inducing journey asked for some perspective of one with two decades logged on the trail.


What I posted was intended to encourage but it wound up being hurtful.  Mostly to my son.


In my blurry mind, I thought I had his permission to share his very personal thoughts but that was not his intent at all.  He works very hard not to offend anyone with his views or choices or opinions and my post jeopardized that.  My son is a man of integrity and compassion and his deepest desire is to build bridges to people, not walls.


While I don't apologize for my unabashed support for homeschooling, I deeply regret sharing what he didn't want public.  Additionally, if anyone other than homeschooling Moms read that post (even though I sincerely asked that you not), I publicly ask your forgiveness


Thank you.

Frozen

Several of you asked for details when my sweet Katie thanked me on FB for the freezer meals I recently brought her.
So here goes - what's up with freezer meals??

I use the term "freezer meals" when referring to anything I've prepared one day and stashed in my freezer to use at a later date.  A batch of muffins. A lasagna to be thawed and heated up. A concoction of chicken cacciatore ready for the slow cooker.  And everything in between.


When I had my second baby, I found myself ill equipped for family meal time.  The bottle for the baby I could handle but the food for the rest of our mouths was all too often carryout pizza or a microwaved potato and as many Tabs as were needed at the moment.  And trust me, that was a lot! The thing was, my family just kept wanting to eat!  Day after day after day.  Really!!!! 
My dear and wise MIL knew I needed help and figured out that an infusion of instruction might make a difference --- she gave me a book that changed the direction of mealtime at our house.  And I am forever grateful!


That book, Once a Month Cooking, presents a plan to cook an entire month's worth of meals in a day. It is phenomenal - complete with step by step instructions, recipes, and menu suggestions.  I think this book propelled an entire industry of make ahead meals. It rocks. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0312534043/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_dp_ss_2?pf_rd_p=1944687642&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=1891400614&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=1N8F1S3VJ19P0A6W8JT0




I, however, have never been able to master an entire day of cooking.  I think I have K-ADD (that would be "Kitchen Attention Deficit Disorder) and cannot keep focused on meal prep for that long.  But the principle of "cook now, eat later" stuck.  And it's been a lifesaver!



You don't have to carve out an entire day or purchase 31 freezer containers in order to employ this tactic.  Just work it into your life a bit at a time and pretty soon you'll wind up with a freezer ready to meet the needs of breakfast when you slept late, a homecooked meal during Little League playoffs, and dinner to deliver to the new mom on your street.  Right now, my freezer's contents include several loaves of homemade strawberry bread, chicken and dumplings, meatloaf, Salisbury steaks, homemade meatballs, chicken cacciatore, thai pork, lasagna, baked ziti, breakfast casserole,chicken enchiladas, ground beef for tacos, and cooked shredded chicken for casseroles.
All without a large expenditure of time or effort - that's the best!


I invite you to try your hand at equipping your freezer to meet the demands of your family.

Assignment #1-
Sometime today or tomorrow, make a double batch of muffins.  Whichever kind your family likes.  Chocolate chip or blueberry or yummy morning glory muffins http://allrecipes.com/recipe/easy-morning-glory-muffins/
Serve some for breakfast and package the rest for the freezer, ready to be pulled out one morning when you are pressed for time.  Add some bacon and a piece of fruit and you will bless your family!


Assignment #2 - make a double loaf of breakfast bread.  My family loves banana chocolate chip or strawberry and both are frequent short term guests in my freezer.  I love having them on hand not just for our breakfast but especially to gift to friends!


Assignment #3 is really easy and especially handy - don't stress out over the fact that I want you to do two things :) 
1.  Cook 2-3 lbs chicken breasts in the crock pot, seasoned however you like, all day.  Before you head to bed, shred the chicken and package in meal sized portions in freezer bags
2.  Brown 3 lbs of ground beef (with onions if your family likes them) and package in three separate freezer bags to use for tacos or spaghetti sauce on nights you won't have time to prepare dinner.


Assignment #4 - plan to serve a recipe one night this week that can be doubled or tripled and stash the rest in your freezer.  Suggestions - chili, lasagna, spaghetti casserole, chicken enchiladas, poppy seed chicken, ravioli soup.       
This is a link to Love for my Living Letters ,a few of my family's favorite dishes, including several that freeze great (cheese grits, ravioli soup, granola, cookies, etc)https://www.dropbox.com/s/1ywkj3xxyvq9eg8/Love%20for%20my%20Living%20Letters.docx?dl=0
If this link doesn't work, just look for the link on the right side of the blogsite.

One last suggested assignment to get you started -
Prepare 2-3 meals ready to be plopped in the slow cooker and simmered all day. I found several really easy and inexpensive ones here http://www.iamthatlady.com/aldi-slow-cooker-meal-plan/

Another book that is a handy resource for me is called Frozen Assets   http://www.amazon.com/Frozen-Assets-How-Cook-Month/dp/1891400614

You don't have to prepare a whole month's worth of meals....just get some muffins baked and you'll be on your way to stress-free homecooked meals!!