Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. I Corinthians 13:4-7
We are working our way through this passage…now we come to this description of love –
Love is not arrogant or rude.
Some translations say “it is not arrogant and does not act unbecomingly”. I like that explanation.
First, let’s address the arrogance. Simply put, LOVE esteems others as more important than ourselves. When we love, we seek to lift others up, prioritize what is best for others, and not assume that our position/opinion/view is the right one. Now, just a word of caution – I do not think that Scripture is advocating a miserable existence where we denigrate ourselves and consider our lives to be worthless. That is actually just another expression of arrogance! Because arrogance is self-consumption and deflation of others. Love is, instead, self-forgetfulness and the valuing of others. Love is not arrogant because love does not focus on self.
That’s why the “love is not rude” admonition follows – rudeness is a lack of consideration of others. Plain and simple. From civility of manners to common courtesies to respectful public behavior (including social media…), love is not rude. It does not treat others in an impolite, thoughtless or mean way. It just does not.
I wonder how many relationships could be repaired if we just would choose to reject arrogance and rudeness. And I wonder how many relationships are fractured because we didn’t…
I believe that Christians should place a high value on treating others with respect and courtesy. We need to train our children to do so…and we need to model it ourselves. Ask God to show you if there is a relationship or a situation where you have displayed arrogance or rudeness. Then repent and be reconciled.
That’s what Love does.