Turtle attack

Yes, I got attacked by a snapping turtle today.  I was on a power walk when I noticed a large turtle in the middle of the road.  Cars are constantly zooming down this road and I was concerned it might get hurt.  So, like I have done scores of times in the past, I moved the turtle.  Unfortunately, he was NOT as concerned about the possibility of becoming road kill and consequently did not cooperate with my Good Samaritan lifesaving mission.  He coped in the only way he knew how.  He attacked.  I managed to avoid his snapping mouth but I was no match for his bionic claws.  He left a couple of gashes on my fingers.  So much for trying to help the critter!!!  In spite of gushing blood all over the road, I got him safely to the side among the leaves and rocks.  I continued on my exercise quest...and watched him head right back to where I rescued him from!! Oh well.

I finished my walk, washed up the wounds, dutifully applied antibiotic cream, bandaged up, and couldn't wait to share my funny story with the rest of the Moms waiting on kids at swim practice.  I was laughing until one friend shared about an acquaintance who had recently been clawed by a dog, didn't treat the wounds, and died four days later.  Haunted not only by that information but also knowing what my own Mother would say, I called my doctor.  Now I am on oral antibiotic and on my way to get a tetanus booster (even though my last one was less than 10 years ago....doctor's orders...sigh).  All for a dumb turtle that didn't even ask for help!!!

Moments of reflection.  There's a life lesson in here.  (Well, of course!)  Sometimes we try to help someone and it turns out differently than we anticipated.  Not only are we not a hero, we are often wounded in the process.  The person (or situation) we are attempting to aid doesn't want our assistance.  They may not even know they need it.  Probably there are times we offer help when we just need to leave things alone.  Other times, the person might allow us to help and we can move on without incident.  Sometimes, though, the process is gonna get messy.  They may claw or bite or do whatever they can in order to refuse our remedy.  They may be hurting so profusely that this is all they can think of to do.  Or, they might just simply want to stay right where they are, in spite of the danger of oncoming cars.
So what are we to do? 

I don't know. 

Somehow we have to figure out if we need to leave them alone.  Or come back later.  Or try another tactic (like maybe I should have used a stick to push Tommy Turtle out of the road???). Or maybe we are wrong and they don't need help after all!  What a novel possibility!

Sometimes, though, we just need to do what needs to be done and do it regardless of what it may cost us.  We gotta get them out of the middle of the road.  It might result in personal injury.  It might wind up taking a lot more time than you thought initially.  And it might make you wonder if you did the right thing after all.  But you gotta try and help.

For the record, I'm glad I saved the turtle.  Even if he never realizes it.  I'm glad.

What is prayer?

Probably a bazillion times, we will tell someone "I'm praying for you".  Probably less than a bazillion times do we actually do it.  Now, I'm not being cynical or critical...just honest.  We are well-intentioned and we really do care about the one we commit to pray for....but sometimes we just don't do it.  Or if we do, it's one of those "arrow prayers" that we shoot up towards Heaven - "please bless Bobby".  We'd be hard-pressed to know if God ever answered many of those.

So I thought it'd be fun to do some posts on prayer.  God commands us to pray.  We want to pray.  We need to pray.  So let's find out about prayer.



We will use, as our basis, Matthew 6:9-13.  This is most often referred to as "The Lord's Prayer". 

Pray then like this:
“Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be your name.
10 Your kingdom come,
your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
11 Give us this day our daily bread,
12 and forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors.
13 And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.

Most Bible scholars agree that we should refer to this as "The Model Prayer" because Jesus is instructing us how to pray.  They say that "The Lord's Prayer" is what we should call John 17, when Jesus prayed for us!   Whatever we call it, it is set of instructions that can guide us as we pray instead of a rote prayer to only memorize and repeat. 

These verses contain different index sentences that serve as topical areas for the believer to cover in prayer.  We will break this model down into those different areas over the next few days so as to learn how we are to pray.  Following that, we will address some questions about prayer.  Things like why do some prayers go unanswered?  If God is omniscient, why should we pray?  What makes God answer yes?  How often should I pray?  Is public prayer acceptable to God?

If you have other questions, let me know and we'll try to find the answers. For now, just pray :)
 
 
 
 

What God does when we hurt


As I sit here watching Chip sleep off the anesthesia from his wisdom teeth extraction, I heard the Lord whisper to me.  He is so kind, so gentle, so compassionate...and so powerful and holy and majestic.  I just had to share the impressions He left with me today...

Over the past several weeks, I have watched friends experience tragedy and heartache.  The sudden and unexpected loss of a Dad. The unfathomable shock of losing a baby.  Prolonged infertility.  Career struggles.  Marital strife and infidelity.  And "routine" suffering like problems brought on by aging, parenting difficulties, feelings of rejection and personal inadequacies.  Hurting.  Pain.  Suffering.

I have cried with my friends.  Cried for them, too.  Prayed for them.  And with them.  Ministered in ways that seem pathetically small...hoping that minute expressions of love can somehow administer a drop of healing balm to their ruptured hearts.  Realizing that probably my attempts to minister might do more to diminish my own pain than theirs... but trying to ease theirs nonetheless.  Sometimes sharing a word or thought but usually not.  I have learned that there aren't really any words that help in times of pain.  Prayers and presence seem to make more of a difference.

In every case, as I have felt acute pain for my friends, my pain is deepened when I realize that, at some point, I get to turn away from their pain and towards something joyful or pleasurable. I can sort of compartmentalize the hurt, dealing with it when I feel more capable, denying it when I don't.  My friends can't, however.  Their lives are forever altered.  They have a "new normal".  No compartments are unaffected by their pain.

Please know that I am not trying to be dramatic or pessimistic.  I am just calling it like it is.  At least like I see it.  People hurt.  Deeply. And, maybe I am dramatic, but I hurt with them.  I want to ease their pain, to lighten their load, to help them heal.  And I feel so helpless.  Inadequate.

So, today, as I took Chip to the oral surgeon, sat with him as he came out of the anesthesia, got his medicine, made him comfortable at home, worried about his pain (and OK, laughed at his groggy commentary!), fixed a million smoothies, cried because he will have to miss some fun outings, answered two million questions (you gotta know my Chip!), and wrestled with the he-has-to-go- through-this-knowing-its-best-and-all-that-but-I-intensely-hate-that-he-has-to-hurt feelings, I also prayed.  And heard God.

 What I am doing today is an earthly picture of what He does.  Faulty and weak as I may be, it's a picture of God at work on behalf of His children when they are in pain.

He generously supplies what we need.  He anticipates our needs and provides for them abundantly.  Sometimes through others but always from Him. Directing our steps...or our non-steps. Sitting beside us when we can't step. Getting us up when we fall.  He hurts when we hurt.  Intensely.  Even though He knows that He will bring beauty out of ashes.  Even though He knows He's got us covered.  Even though He could stop it all with just a word.  He hurts when we hurt.  Most of all, He's there.  His presence.  Compassionate.  Strong.  Healing us with His very presence.

If you are hurting, please know that my heart breaks on your behalf.  I wish I could heal your heart, remove your pain, restore you to joy.  I can't.  But I know that you will find His presence sufficient.  I know that you will find peace and comfort in His arms.  And I hope that He will let me be a resource of His love for you.  I care.  I really do.

In the midst of our pain and struggles, we will know that this is temporary.  Even though we might hurt for decades, it's still not a permanent place.  One day, His Presence will be visible.  He Himself will wipe our tears away.  And we will be whole.  And there will be forever joy.  Because we will be forever in His Presence.  Amen.  And Amen.

Happy Mother's Day

Mother's Day.  A day to celebrate indeed.  All of us have a Mom.  Some of us are one.  What do you think about on Mother's Day?

I think, perhaps, that our thoughts on today vary with our life station.
If you are under 8 years old, I'll bet you think your Mom is the greatest Mom in the Universe, pretty much perfect.  Around 10-12, maybe not so much.  Her humanity begins to be revealed to your once-gullible eyes, even if you don't know what to call it, and, although you love her, you can sometimes be bothered by her.  Warm up for ages 13-18.  Wow.  Moms can really irritate you during those years.  They don't treat you like the adult you practically are; they "just don't get you"; and, truth be told, you look forward to being out from under their eagle-eye. 

Be patient, though.  By the time you turn 25, your  Mom will have gotten a lot smarter.  Her advice is a lot less "lame" and she winds up being an awful lot of help to you.  I can only speak to the next 25 years, as my experience is limited to that span of time, but I'll promise you this -- there is no better friend in your life than your Mom.  No one else would lay down her life for you without even thinking about it.  She already has and she still does...continuously.  No one else knows so well your imperfections and loves you just the same.  No one else has the bond to you that cannot be cut by even death. 

Maybe your relationship with your  Mom is strained. Maybe she made a lot of mistakes and really bad decisions in life.  Just the thought of that causes tears to well up in me.  I cannot imagine going through life....or a day....without the unwavering support of my Mom.  (and Dad, for that matter!)  But if that's where you are, I want to encourage you to do a couple of things. In fact, these are good ideas regardless of the state of your relationship with her!  If you are a Christ-follower, He requires that you honor her.  As a child, you are called to obey her but forever you are to honor her.

 Deuteronomy 5:16  -" Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you." 

Wow.  God doesn't always accompany a commandment with a promise but He does here.  Showing honor to our parents has a direct link to life going well for us.  Now we are really interested in how to obey this command!


What does it look like, to "honor" your Mother?

    For one thing, don't hate her.  That's what Proverbs 23:22 says - "Do not despise your mother when she is old" . Over time, chances are good that your Mom is going to do some things to hurt you or disappoint you, and maybe even make you hate her.  But don't.  Even if she "deserves" it.  She needs to have your forgiveness...and you need to give it.  For your own mental health.  (And, side note - now that I'm a Mom of 24+ years, I realize how much grace I need from my kids. When you have had a few years on the "Mom side" of the "parenting equation", you may realize that most Moms are truly trying to do the best they can.  This is a really hard job and I now wish I had given more grace to my own Mom lots of times.  Especially when I was 13-18 years old!!)
 
Another thing that honor looks like is found in Proverbs 1:8 - "do not forsake your mother's teaching." All those lectures, remember?  Probably had some pearls of wisdom in them and we would all do well to heed them. At the very least, do not sigh or roll your eyes or disrespect her counsel.  If God is letting you hear her lectures, most likely He has something in mind for you to hear.

Third, be someone she can be happy about.  Proverbs 23:25 says "let her rejoice who gave birth to you".  Don't live in such a way that your life brings her sorrow.  Honor her by living an honorable life yourself.  Not just today but lots and lots of times, tell her thank you.  Celebrate her.  Spend time with her.  And, if you have kids yourself, train them to honor your Mom.  It will come back to reward you some day....just sayin......

Gonna close with some thoughts for those whose Mother's Days are not full of joy.  Some of you have lost your Mom. This day accentuates a permanent hole in your heart.  One dear friend tells me that she often thinks "Who prays for me, now that my Mom isn't here to do that?"  Two answers - I do and she still does.  I believe with all my heart that our loved ones who are in Heaven still pray for us -- praying is just talking to Jesus and they are closer than ever to Him, now that they aren't on Earth!!!! But I know that void must always ache.  I am sorry for your hurt. I pray for you and  I look forward to the reunions of Eternity.  And I will share my own Mom if you need her.  She's the best.
Some of you aren't Mothers.  But so desperately long to be able to celebrate today as one.  Several dear women come to my mind as I type this.  And I want you to know I pray for you.  I love you and I continually ask the Lord to grant you the blessing of this highest of all life's callings.  Many, many times, I do not understand His plan.  Sometimes it is so hard and I hurt for you and with you.  We will trust Him together.

And for all of us women, Mothers and Mothers-to-be and everyone else - we are each created to bear the image of God. " God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them" (Genesis 1:27). It takes both male and female to manifest the glory of God.  So shine forth His glory with your life. Don't waste your time on things that do not last, things which do not show forth His glory - "  Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised" (Proverbs 31:30)

Happy Mother's Day to all.

 And, to my own Mom, if by some unlikely event, you decide to connect to the internet and read this blog, I love you.  God gave me the absolute best when He made me yours. You are my hero, my dearest friend, my biggest fan, and my role model.  Happy Mother's Day forever.